Question: My family is so busy that we rarely have time for each other? What can we do?
Answer: It seems that families are busier now than ever. However, when we examine busyness, we can understand how to deal with it and overcome it.
Many people in families are busy, not because of activities, but because of a purposeful intent to avoid a family member. An example will illustrate. Several men have shared that they work extra to avoid conflict, at home, with their wives. This scenario can be viewed as busyness on the surface, but in reality it is avoidance.
Another example is appropriate. Females have revealed to me they “stay up late” washing clothes, balancing the checkbook, cleaning house, etc. to avoid going to bed fearing their husband will pressure them for sex. This scenario can be viewed, also, as busyness on the surface, but in reality it is avoidance.
Teens have reported that playing sports, band participation, hanging out with friends, etc. is their way of avoiding conflict at home. Again, this can be viewed as busyness, but in reality is it avoidance.
The answer to avoidance is not more busyness, but to seek God’s help in resolving these conflicts. Matthew 6:33 states, “But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.”
Notice the emphasis in this verse. If we seek to put Jesus first in every area of life- including conflicting relationships, He will add everything unto us. In other words, He will remove the issue or conflict or give us power to overcome it. That’s a win-win solution!
Friends, not all busyness is avoiding conflict, but if there is conflict that is being avoided, seek God first and watch His amazing results change your life and relationships.